Realtor - Amanda S. Davidson: Keeping Things In Perspective

Keeping Things In Perspective

Keeping Things In Perspective

I caught myself feeling down earlier this week. We were set to leave tomorrow to head to the Outer Banks for our annual vacation there. We have gone for a week in September for the last three years and were set to stay in the house we got engaged in last year. Needless to say with Hurricane Florence our vacation was cancelled.

Keeping Things In Perspective 

I was feeling down about not being able to have a vacation that I’ve been looking forward to for months and feeling angry that we lost thousands of dollars and then it, fortunately, hit me that I was really being ridiculous. Is it a bummer we won’t have a vacation or be able to celebrate a year of being engaged – absolutely but, will it make any serious impact on our lives? Absolutely not.

There are so many people that will lose their homes, their belongings, and everything that makes them feel safe from this hurricane. Worse, there are some people that will lose their lives. All of which are life-changing events that will have an impact forever. It’s really easy to feel sorry for yourself when something like a vacation gets cancelled but, in the big picture, it’s just not important. A vacation and the money that was paid can be replaced. Yes, a home can be replaced too but, your life will never be the same after suffering that large of a loss.


Keeping Things In Perspective


I have to admit I felt like a jerk for even allowing myself to feel down or sad about something like not getting to take a vacation. My parents are in Charleston, South Carolina and could have massive damage from flooding, we have friends in Mount Pleasant, Paul has family in the Outer Banks area, my friends from ActiveRain, and in addition to those personal connections there are many people whom I don’t know who will be severely impacted by Hurricane Florence.


Life is about keeping things in perspective and what might seem like something big at the time is often really quite small when you take a step back and look at the big picture. This weekend, I’ll be focused on being grateful for having a dry home where my fiancé and dogs are safe while praying for those who are dealing with the storm and the path of destruction it leaves behind. 





Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group





Amanda Davidson

Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group

Broker - Owner
Licensed in VA and DC

6485 Old Beulah Street
Alexandria, VA 22315

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Comment balloon 33 commentsAmanda S. Davidson • September 13 2018 08:56PM


Good morning, Amanda S. Davidson keeping everything within its proper perspective is important in critical time like this.... those poor people who are on top floors to stay out of the water.... why didn't they evacuate when sad.

Posted by Barbara Todaro, "Franklin MA Homes" (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 2 months ago

Indeed...the people in the areas where Florence is "visiting" have a whole different perspective...and hoping things are not as tragic as forecasted.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 2 months ago

Good morning Amanda.  I think you were lucky to not be on vacation when this storm decided to visit.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) 2 months ago

Hurricane Florence will change the lives of many families.

When I was young, we vacationed many times at Duck.

Posted by Roy Kelley, Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs (Realty Group Referrals) 2 months ago

Good morning Amanda - sorry to hear about your vacation.  At least you are safe.  I am think and praying with you for all those in the path of the storm.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 2 months ago

Hi Amanda S. Davidson - You and Paul are such a beautiful couple.  Your title says it all. I hope Paul's parents as well as the entire area makes it through with little or no damage. 

I feel bad for you and Paul about your vacation. What a shame...

I went through Hurricane Karla - as a little girl and that left a huge impact on me. We were without power for two weeks and the flood waters came up to our stoop. ( We were so lucky) ...BUT because of that deep impression, I have never made any vacation plans during hurricane season in areas that could be affected. 

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 2 months ago

Hello Amanda- - - it's good to keep "things" in perspective.  Not just now but always. 

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 2 months ago

Amanda: It is definitely all about perspective. You are right, there are many who will be displaced (and worse) because of the hurricane.

Posted by Anita Clark, Realtor - Homes for Sale in Warner Robins GA (ColdwellBanker SSK Realtors ~ 478.960.8055) 2 months ago

Actually you should feel lucky that it didn't happen while you were there and then became stranded. BTW, great photo of the two of you, which should make you smile even more...

Posted by Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400, Long Island Condo & Home Sale Specialists (The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803) 2 months ago

Good morning Amanda. I hear you and agree. Life presents many obstacles and how we react makes us. Go somewhere else and enjoy yourself. Life is short.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) 2 months ago

You have such a great attitude and it is definitely better to stay safe, rather than take a risk on a possibly dangerous situation.

Posted by Brian England, MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ (Arizona Focus Realty) 2 months ago

Hello Amanda, I am sorry about the vacation being cancel but I rather you be home and dry and I am sure your parents will be okay.

Posted by Will Hamm, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!" (Hamm Homes) 2 months ago

Hi Amanda,
Perspective is one of my favorite words. 

Posted by Carol Williams, "Customized Mentoring & Marketing Services" (U.S.: I specialize in helping agents who have been in the business 2 years or less create a thriving business.) 2 months ago

Amanda, sorry to hear you vacation to the Outer Banks was canceled, but pretty sure it would not have been fun with rain/winds.   Hope the parents are all OK.  You two are so cute together.

Posted by Joan Cox, Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time (Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373) 2 months ago

Hi Amanda... life is about keeping things in perspective, but your initial feelings were simply human. Did not know you had family down here... tough times ahead for them and I'll keep them in my thoughts and prayers to stay safe.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage | Charlotte, NC) 2 months ago

Thanks for your honesty. It is so easy to get sidetracked when things don't go exactly as planned. Sounds like you have a lot to be thankful for which is wonderful ....along with a fantastic market where you live. It's beautiful in Alexandria.

Posted by Janice Hope Zaltman Realtor,LEED AP (United Realty Group) 2 months ago

You are allowed to feel sad Amanda! And you are allowed to feel angry - I know, I would be! Go ahead and be angry at Florence for a moment and then channel these feelings into something positive or productive. Just don't beat yourself up for having feelings to begin with. I can't imagine anyone faulting you for it! 

Posted by Andrea Bedard, M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond (Thompson Company, REALTORS®) 2 months ago

Hi Amanda

Life certainly does throw us curve-balls that make us reflect a bit on our lives, as they compare to others, and so often those inconveniences make us realize that others have it far worse...and then the guilt sets in! That's OK, and it's OK to have those feelings, and then realize where they are coming from, and move on. We all have many friends, family and colleagues who are reeling from Florence and no doubt have them all in our thoughts...I have a client here who sold his home earlier this year and bought another near the beach in NC near Wilmington!

We know the area well, having spent out honeymoon there and visiting multiple times...and so many people we know!! So sad to think about what so many are dealing with...and thank you for all the rescuers!!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 2 months ago

So glad to read in the comments that your parents are safe.

I am not brave enough to live in an area where hurricanes visit - and if I had been there for any reason, I'd have been on the highway out of town days ago - when the first warnings were issued.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 2 months ago

Perspective aside, you can still feel sad. Tough to see the forest for the trees some of the time, though. I have two family members living in Raleigh, right on the edge. Even then, both houses have lost power.

I have been in one hurricane. That's one too many.

Posted by Jon Quist, Tucson's BUYERS ONLY Realtor since 1996 (REALTY EXECUTIVES TUCSON ELITE) 2 months ago

It is fine to feel disappointed and blue because something you were looking forward to won't happen. That's being human! And it's also important to keep everything in perspective - thankfully you were not already ON vacation when this storm hit. You can now plan a nice staycation instead!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, 2 months ago

Hi Amanda- I loved your post. When we look at what's going on outside of our own lives, we realize that we are blessed. And I like what Gabe Sanders least you weren't down there having to try to evacuate. Our friend's son-in-law was there in business and had to get out quickly. Perspective has a way of giving us 20/20 vision. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 2 months ago

Well said, and so true, Amanda. It really is about perspective. Thanks for reminding us. I have an irritation I'm dealing with today, and like you, it really doesn't impact my life at all. Perspective. 

Posted by Mike Cooper, Your Winchester, VA Real Estate Sales Pro (Cornerstone Business Group Inc) 2 months ago

I am all for smooth sailing but I take courses in stormy weather survival as well

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) 2 months ago

What a heartfelt post. I’m glad it got featured. Congratulations on your engagement too!

Posted by M.C. Dwyer, Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist (Century 21 Showcase REALTORs) 2 months ago

Never been in an hurricane but I understand you felt bad about missing out on your vacation. As you said, it's all about Perspective. Congrats on your engagement!

Posted by Eva B. Liland with Century 21 Doug Anderson, Glad to be of Service (Century 21 Doug Anderson) 2 months ago

Amanda, perhaps you can take a mini vacation later. I agree with your statement about perspective. Stay dry, enjoy being with your loved ones and the four-legged ones as well.

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Vision Quest Realty, Martha Hilton, Broker) 2 months ago

Amanda S. Davidson - Putting things into perspective, I have to say you and your man make a very lovely couple! It's really too bad that you couldn't celebrate your engagement anniversary as planned but there's a good reason. I'm all for spontaneity! Please enjoy your anniversary in the most enjoyable way you can. 

I pray your parents and both your family members and friends (including our dear AR friends) in Charleston, Outer Banks, Mt. Pleasant and other surrounding areas are safe. 

Amanda, you wrote such a beautiful blog post. With so much on the news about Hurricane Florence, it's hard to stay focused on the positive when plans are zapped right out from under you. Thankfully, you weren't there at the Outer Banks when Flo came in unexpectedly. You're such a smart woman. You really put things into perspective. I just know that everything is going to work out for you and your fiance and soon you will be married. 

Congratulations on this feature, but most of all, congratulations on finding love and your one year engagement anniversary. 

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) 2 months ago

What an inspiring blog!  Your situation is unfortunate but you are looking at it with a positive attitude--so important.  We have so much to be thankful for every single day--you will get back there for a vacation at some point!

Posted by Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR, Experience Agent in Kansas City Metro area (Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes) 2 months ago

Thanks for sharing your feelings about Florence wiping out your plans.

As others have commented....sure sadness and anger first at your loss, then stepping back and being grateful for what you do have, and it sounds like you and your man have weathered your personal impact of this storm together in a good way.

Happy anniversary!


Posted by Gloria Todor, & Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA (Century 21 Absolute Realty ) 2 months ago

I so appreciate your post.  It's easy to take the shortest path in a tragedy, but you took a step back and looked at the big picture.  Kudos!


A good friend of mine/realtor retired from Phoenix moving to Oak Island, NC.  She was just here over last weekend, leaving 9/9 to return to NC.  I spoke with her on Monday and she was evacuating to inland NC.  So far she has no damage to her main home on 19' pilons, but her rental I'm not su sure about.  It's a big surreal texting with her and hearing from her about this.  Normally I wouldn't know anyone in a hurrican predicament!  

Congrats again to you and your fiance.  I bet you'll find an even better vacation.  And you can vacation after all is back to normal celebrating again in the future! 

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) 2 months ago

I totally get why you'd give in to your feelings .. in the short terms, Amanda S. Davidson ... you work hard and everyone ... everyone needs some downtime.  Don't be too hard on yourself, you're human.  

Hoping that your folks and friends are safe ... and that you stay dry, as well. 


Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) 2 months ago

I think you are like the rest of us and we would have had the first reaction like you did. Then in thinking about it deeper, you realize what really was important and that is being healthy and with the ones you love. 

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Platinum Properties) 2 months ago